As you go through life, you may get a sense that those who succeed in their chosen field are unbreakable. They managed to get to where they want to be, they’ve succeeded, and that success is only for the strong.
I am not unbreakable. Life is hard and it gets to you. It makes you question yourself; can make you lose confidence in what you’re doing; will make you wonder if it’s best just to stay stuck where you are.
But I’m learning more and more that life isn’t about being unbreakable. It’s what you do when you are broken; how you stick yourself back together.
You need to realise that those successful people that you admire are broken too. You’re only seeing the success, and not the trials and breakdowns that got them there.
I’ve learnt that the soul usually knows what to do to heal itself when it is broken – you’ve just got to shut up the mind, that will probably be reeling through all of the previous breakdowns you’ve had and questioning is it worth it. You need to train the mind to be quiet, to be positive.
It’s ok to break. If you’ve been trying to stay strong for too long, you are going to have to break eventually. No body should be under that kind of pressure for too long. And when you do break, be kind to yourself. There’s no rush here. Take you time, look after yourself, eat well, rest, pick up an old hobby. You need to just be. Tell yourself that you are ok, and do what you need to do in order to glue yourself back together. And once you’re back together again, keep going in the direction of your dreams and ambitions. Like I said, there’s no rush here; you’re not racing anybody, so go at your own speed. Take days, weeks, months, years even, just make sure you do stick yourself back together.
I’m learning that success isn’t exclusively for those who are unbreakable – it is for those who can keep going after every break.
So if you feel like you’re breaking right now, know that you are not alone. Take the time to heal and pick up where you left off. Breaking does not equate to failure.
© The Motivation Project 2018