Do you ever think back to your younger self? Who you were all of those years ago, what you wanted, and where you are now? Are you the person that you wanted to be back then?
I’m not. When I was in school and college, I never wanted to be stuck in a full time job, lining the pockets of others whilst my dreams fade away, and yet here I am, 30 years of age and doing exactly that. And if you’re still reading this, I guess you’re in a similar scenario It’s all too common.
Now, life is always going to turn out differently than you planned, but your dreams and ambitions are the core of who you are, so when they don’t quite pan out, it can be very disheartening, especially when you don’t even realise your dreams were slipping away.
But we were fresh out of education, with no clear direction in going about achieving our dreams, and we wanted to make a little money. We fall into this trap of thinking if we work a little we can buy ourselves the freedom to do what we really want to do at a later date, and in reality we just keep needing the money and putting off our dreams.
We have only ourselves to blame really. At one point we chose the wage and the security.
It’s frustrating that we do this sort of thing to ourselves (I mean, there’s countless movies and books about it) but at least at some point we learn the lesson – that we make our own destiny – and thankfully it’s rarely never too late to do something about it.
Yes, we might regret wasted years, but we cannot change the past. We have to accept it and steer our future selves in the right direction in order to get closer to where, and who, we want to be.
We need to take charge of our own lives. No blaming the situation, because that is the result of millions of decisions we have made over the years. Decide what kind of life you want for yourself and go and get it! Say no to anything that doesn’t help you. It’s not too late, and you’re not too old to make your own destiny and be the person you are meant to be.
Only you can make yourself become unstuck.
© The Motivation Project 2019