It is often said that comparison is the thief of joy. That nothing good can come from comparing yourself to others and holding them in a higher regard than you do yourself. However, I think that, as with most things in life, it all depends on your mindset and thought process.
If you are going to sit there, getting yourself all worked up, getting down on yourself because you feel that somebody else is prettier, smarter, more successful than you, then yes, your joy will be minimal. But it does not have to be that way. Why not see your supposed shortcomings compared to somebody else as an opportunity for growth and self-improvement instead?
We’ve all been there, I’m sure, scrolling through social media and coming across an old school friend who appears to have their life together more than you do, or a celebrity that you admire who maybe makes you think of your own inadequacies. And although we all know that social media is made for bragging about your best life and not your struggles, it is sooooo easy to start comparing yourself; totally natural actually and everybody does it, but the thing is, rather than just being negative, ask yourself why you feel as if you do not compare and what you might be able to do about it. Use your sense of lack as a way to inspire and motivate. Use it as a catalyst for a little self-improvement.
Your hair feels dull and lifeless next to theirs? Then try some different products, or a new haircut.
Their social life appears better than yours? Could you maybe make more of an effort with your friends, family, work colleagues?
They seem happy in their job? Is it time for you to seek a promotion, or a new job? Is it about time you followed your passions?
Simplistic statements maybe, and often easier said than done, but you get the point right? You need to become pro-active when you find you don’t feel up to standard with others – otherwise you’re just being harsh to yourself and your own mental health. The people you are comparing yourself to were proactive in getting the look, job, lifestyle that you admire; these things do not just happen after all, so before you start getting down on yourself, you need to put the effort in too!
Life is definitely not a competition, we all have our own paths, but if comparing yourself to others is getting you down, then by all means, use it as a little ammunition to kickstart your motivation to get the life that you want.
© The Motivation Project 2020